I had the pleasure of speaking with Michael L. Bannon over the weekend. At the time, I was a guest of his at the University of Houston. I found his talk to be extremely insightful and thought provoking. I encourage you to listen to it in full and then share your own thoughts. I am going to link it up to my blog as well.
Let me break it down for you. When you are confronted with a situation where you are having a difficult time coming to a decision, your default should be to reach out to someone who can provide advice. The advice that I have found works well on a lot of occasions is just to reach out to someone you trust and ask them for help. If nothing else, you are forcing someone to take the time to listen, which will help you decide the best course of action.
Lately I have been getting a lot of questions from people asking me for advice on things such as painting their kitchen cabinets, or how to decorate a new home. Generally, the first thing I do is reach out to someone you trust for advice, and just ask them for some advice on their own situation. What I have found is that people often respond better when they are told by someone they trust. Someone with whom you can trust is always much better for this question than by yourself.
You are right. In the past, I have taken the advice from others, but in more recent years I have been taking my own advice and asking for more answers. I have learned that people are often reluctant to talk about their feelings in public, but that’s okay because it is really the first step to building a relationship.
One of the reasons I started this website is to share those little details about my life, past and present, that are the most important in helping people to heal, grow, and change. I have found that many people only know about their own life in great detail and never really get past the details about how they feel. By sharing those details about myself, I have found that people who are looking for information get to know me in a way they never knew.
Most people will never even know that I have a relationship with someone named “Bannon.” I have a history of talking about my relationships with this person on this site (with a link to other information, but that is a topic for another website) but I’ve never actually met him. That’s why I make the site. If you are interested in meeting this person, I recommend this website.
Well, I am a “bannon” who is a “person in a relationship with an older man” who was “arrested last year” and is “under the care of the state”. And I am also a “lindell” who is “a woman who works at a bar” and “is a co-worker with a gay friend”.
The first time I spoke to bannon, we exchanged a few emails about our mutual interest in our co-workers, and then bannon sent me a link to his website and asked me to write for him. And so I did. I wrote about bannon’s new game, The Art of Fucking, and the things he has to say about his relationships with his friends, his co-workers, and the people he works with.
Like Lindell, I was a co-worker with a gay friend, and we are both also lindell who is a woman. When I wrote for bannon I thought that I would be able to write about what I knew about lindell’s life, but I got only one email in response. What I did learn from that conversation is that bannon is a woman who is not a co-worker with a gay friend.
I was also able to learn that bannon is a gay man, since I wrote the first email to bannon as a female, but I know that if I had written it to a male co-worker, it would have gotten a totally different response.